The Art of Writing Letters: Keeping Letter Writing Alive

The Art of Writing Letters: Keeping Letter Writing Alive

Hello, interwebs! Today I am going to be talking a little bit about letter writing and why I am going to be sending lots of letters to my friends and family while I am away in college.

Letters have been a means of communication for a really long time. People evolved and created their own style with handwriting, stationery, wax seals and even stamps. However, over time our culture has moved away from sending hand written notes and toward the technological means of communication entirely. I’ve always loved writing and receiving mail since I was really young. I grew up in the age of computers so there was always this sort of magic and mystery regarding letters and mail in general. When I was growing up, pen-pals and sending post cards to friends during the summer were quite a common thing and I remember always being so excited when I got one.

However, now people have no interest in sending hand written notes and letters. I remember how when I was taking the ACT for the first time that most of the kids in the room didn’t know how to write in cursive, in order to write the statement saying they won’t cheat. This was incredibly surprising to me. As someone who grew up being forced to learn and write in cursive constantly it was unimaginable that people didn’t know it at all.  I digress, as you may know ( if you’ve been following my blog) that I am leaving for college soon. There are a few things that I’m doing while I’m there that I am going to add to my daily routine. Most of those are obvious things, such as skyping my boyfriend and my parents, using my planner, meditation; but there is one thing that most wouldn’t think of, writing letters to my boyfriend as well as my friends.

The reason I wanted to write letters specifically is that a) I love letters and stationery b) think there is something more thoughtful about writing letters and c) as a way to keep in touch with my friends far away that I won’t be able to talk to often. Like I mentioned, I think there is something very thoughtful about writing letters. It tells the person, ” hey I took the time to sit down and put my thoughts on paper” which I think is rather special. I also wanted this as a way for me to show a sort of commitment to my significant other. I wanted the letters to symbolize me thinking about him constantly and making the effort to keep up a normal routine as well as making some things fun and exciting.

To get to my actual point, go out and write someone a letter. It doesn’t take that much time and I’m sure someone around you has an envelope and a stamp. I think people really appreciate it and I am someone who doesn’t want this form of communication as well as handwriting, in general, to go away.

Stay old fashioned,

Lia

 

1 Week Away: Thoughts and Tips about going away to College

1 Week Away: Thoughts and Tips about going away to College

Hello interwebs! Today I am going to be continuing with my little series about heading off to college. Since I am leaving in about a week, I thought I would make a post updating you on my thoughts and feelings as I get so close to my final days at home.

 

Like I’ve said from the beginning, college has always been somewhat of an anxiety inducing topic. As an only child who’s never been away from home for long, this is an entirely new experience. However, as I get closer to actually leaving, there is this odd sense of calm. I think it has to do with how insanely prepared I am and my level of anxiety induced OCD. I’ve gotten all of my stuff, I am almost already packed, bought all of my school supplies and not to mention I’m going to the school of my dreams. ( it’s also a nice bonus that I got a super sweet room and an awesome roommate). With the calm and the happiness also comes with an overwhelming sense of melancholy. I am also leaving my family, my hometown, my best friend and my boyfriend as I leave off toward the unknown.

Leaving also feels like some wonderful, great adventure. I’m leaving to become more of my own person and experience people and things that will ultimately impact my life greater than anything in High School. It will make me a stronger person and hopefully, more self-assured. I think college is the ultimate time to figure out who you are and what you believe in. You aren’t surrounded by parental pressures to be one way or the other, which allows you to really delve into who you are on a very intimate level. You also have your future to dream about. What makes you happy? What could you see yourself working on/for, for quite some time? All of these things, with some good introspection and hard work, will come to you eventually.

This is also the time in which we can learn to be individual adults. The first thing I would like to mention is that you really need to take care of yourself. I know you will hear something similar from your parents, but it is important to take care of your health and well-being; both mental and physical. Mental health is really important to your overall health and happiness and like I’ve said a thousand times before, if you need help please do not feel ashamed to get it. You also have to take care of your physical health as well. Staying up all night on Redbull and Doritos won’t help your skin or your brain ( among many other things). This also doesn’t mean starving yourself because you don’t want to gain the freshman 15. Everything of course in moderation and with some light exercise you should be totally happy and healthy.

That leads me to my last point if you aren’t happy, leave. No one wants you to be unhappy and if a college or room mate or whatever is making you unhappy, miserable or depressed; maybe it just isn’t for you. I also want to stress that this is OKAY. Going to a 4 year, big wig, university isn’t for everyone. Of course, I am a large advocate of higher education but if a big private university isn’t for you there are many other options available.

Overall, I am excited for what’s to come and I wish everyone great sucess in college!

Love and hugs,

Lia

Long Distance Relationships: First year of college away from your significant other

Long Distance Relationships: First year of college away from your significant other

Hello, interwebs! Today I am going to be talking about my thoughts on long distance relationships as well as some of the things that we are planning in order to help make the time away not feel so miserable.

 

Long Distance relationships, especially in college seem like this impossible feat. Everyone you know loves to tell you how much it isn’t going to work. However, in reality, like almost all things; if you give it love, attention, and dedication it will work. Of course, this will not work out for every couple as every couple is different but these are just my thoughts and actions regarding my own relationship that may or may not be helpful to you. First things first a little bit about my relationship. I started dating my boyfriend Ian at the beginning of my senior year after both of us crushing on each other for most of the previous school year. The week before school started we started talking, went on one date to the movies and he asked me out two weeks later. We are just about to hit our one year anniversary on August fourteenth and have had a basically bump-free relationship until now. I think the whole thing that I love about us is that we have such a high level of respect for each other and an understanding of each other’s needs ( such as him helping me with my anxiety symptoms and me just giving him love and help with English haha) that have helped us get through without any real hardcore fights.

Long distance relationships take a certain amount of dedication in order to work. I think you really have to take a step back and determine how much you are willing to work in order to keep the relationship healthy. As someone who recently got a promise ring I would consider us rather serious, though of course, you don’t have to be quite that serious. Overall, I think the main thing is that you are willing to take time out of your schedule for the other person in order to continue somewhat of a normal routine.

As for things that we are going to do to help make that schedule, I have a few things. First and foremost, taking time ( scheduling time) to call or skype them every day I think is key. I don’t say texting because you can message them anytime and it certainly isn’t as personal. If you set out an hour every day to call them or video call then this way you can hear their voice and have an in depth conversation like you would if you were actually with them. I also think this helps with the ” angry text syndrome” that happens with long distance couples. If you don’t know what this is, basically from what I understand when you are away from someone for so long you forget their tone when messaging and more things can be misconstrued as angry or mean. If you call them every day to catch up you can somewhat avoid this issue.

Another thing that we are doing is sending letters. This may seem weird for lots of people but I love stationery and writing so to show my work and effort I pledged to write weekly letters and send pictures along with them. Even though it’s from the girl to the guy, don’t underestimate the power of doing something that people know take time. He may be a manly macho man, but don’t think for a second that he doesn’t appreciate you taking an hour to do something as manual as writing letters. It doesn’t have to be this, of course, it could be sending packages once a month, making those ” open when cards” before you leave, or whatever else you can think of. Doing something on a regular basis that makes you stop and think about the other person will definitely help keep things interesting as well as keep you thinking about them in a positive way. As they say ” distance makes the heart grow fonder”

The last thing of advice is to always know when you are going to see them again.When you leave them always say something along the lines of ” see you on ( this date)”. I actually got this tip from Game Theory on Youtube during a live stream. They mentioned how they went through long distance during college and always did this whenever they saw each other. As for my own personal thoughts about this, I think besides being a really cute way of ” saying goodbye without saying goodbye” it helps remind the person that you are going to see them again and it actually isn’t an eternity away. It also makes it something to look forward to in the future.

 

I know leaving for college is already scary, especially when you are leaving someone who has been the backbone of your life for quite some time. However, this will allow you both to grow up and become independent people as well as hopefully, strengthening your relationship even if you aren’t with each other all the time. I wish you all the best with your relationship endeavors. Sorry for the long post but I had a lot of information to get out haha.

Best wishes,

Lia

 

My Summer of Traveling: My best travel advice

My Summer of Traveling: My best travel advice

Hello, Interwebs! I know its been quite a long time since I’ve posted anything but, I just recently got back from all of my summer travels!

As you know, I recently graduated high school (yay!) and as my graduation present my parents took me to Japan. To preface this, I have been interested in Japan and Japanese culture since I was a little girl, therefore, my parents promised me that if I did well in high school that they would take me to Japan. Japan was absolutely amazing. The people there are the kindest, most loving people I have ever met in my entire life. There were so many instances where we would have gotten horribly lost without the help of random kind people. We were in Japan for almost three weeks so packing was certainly an issue for us. We knew that we were going to be buying a bunch of souvenirs so we had to decide carefully what we were going to do.

1. Carry-on suitcases are the way to go

Honestly, I can’t stress this enough. A good carry-on suitcase along with learning how to pack better is the best way to travel. For our trip to Japan, we decided to all take carry on luggage ( because no way are we paying $30 a bag) and then buy a suitcase there. We actually needed a new suitcase anyway so this worked out. The biggest part about this is learning how to pack. Learning to pack more efficiently helps keep you organized and allows you to only take the smaller suitcase ( and not pay the money! YAY!)

2. BACKPACKS

I absolutely love backpacks. I never carry a purse and use backpacks for almost everything. Especially when you are traveling long distance backpacks help keep everything organized and usually they are more comfortable and safe than purses.

3. Camera

Decide what camera you want to take based off of a) what you have and b) what you are willing to carry around. I brought my big DSLR thinking that I was going to take a bunch of photos and videos ( don’t get me wrong I used it a ton) but toward the end of the trip I just wanted to enjoy the time there instead of being stuck behind a camera. It just depends on what you’re comfortable with.

4. Planning vs Spontaneity

I am always for planning vacations. I think a lot of times there are things that are necessary to plan in advance.However that being said, make sure everyone is on the same page with what they want to do, or else one person ends up planning the whole thing which leads to no one getting to do what they want. Being spontaneous is also something that I recommend. Not having a plan for EVERYTHING makes for a better trip and interesting experiences. Don’t be afraid to just go out there!

 

Well, that’s all I got for you today~ I’ll be posting all of my photos of my trips soon. If you want a more in-depth travel guide from my trip to Japan let me know!

Stay cool,

Lia

May: A Month In Review

May: A Month In Review

Hello, Interwebs! Today I will be continuing with my usual review of the months as they pass by.

Today, I’d like to focus on this idea of ” becoming oneself”. This meaning, to become the person you are meant to be. I’d like to think that this last month I have done more self-growth and self-exploration than I have in a long time. As I am going to college soon, I looked back on my high school experience and looked at all of the things I learned, all of the things I want to continue doing, and all of the things I want to leave behind.

For many people, this is what you’re experiencing right now. This sort of ” beginning of life existential crisis”. Therefore, I want to offer you some of the things that I have learned. The first of those lessons being ” all in due time”. I grew up sincerely thinking that I would never go to college. ( and I spoke about this in depth in another article so go and read that one). ” All in due time” means that you will come upon what you are meant to do or where you are meant to go if you are meant to go or do those things. Leave things up for the future and enjoy today ( of course that doesn’t mean you should do any planning. always plan)  The second thing that I’ve learned is that, above all else, be true to yourself. Many people today think that they need to be this person that they have envisioned as being a better version of themselves, I was one of those people. I used to think that I needed to act a certain way and refrain from being my true self for people to like me.

Now I know people always say ” be yourself and everything will be okay”, that isn’t what I’m telling you. Being yourself won’t be easy, isn’t the path to popularity and won’t get you Instagram followers; but it’s the truth. When you are your true and authentic self the people in your life that you don’t need are weeded out and you find yourself surrounded by people who genuinely like you for you who are, not who you pretend to be.

In the end, May is all about endings become beginnings. We are in this cycle of life whereas one door closes another opens. At the close of this article, I will leave you with this quote

” Without Darkness, there is no Light. For Life is the beautiful lie and Death is the ugly truth”

 

April: A Month in Review

April: A Month in Review

Hello, Interwebs! Today I will be doing my usual review and look back at this month of April.

As many of you know, college is slowly approaching. One month left of school and then I will officially be a college student, which is pretty nerve-wracking if you ask me. This time is sort of melancholy, in the way that I am really excited about college, but I am also really sad about having to leave my family and my boyfriend; both of which I won’t be seeing for a long time as soon as I leave.

Besides all of the college stuff, April is time for fun memories. Prom ( being on the day I’m writing this) which will be a night of fun and dancing which I will hopefully remember as being one of the best nights of high school. Soon after, I have all of my May events including; May the fourth be with you, Senior Trip to Knott’s Berry Farm, and the renaissance faire. All of which should be fun and exciting creating lots of memories for me to look back on for the rest of my life.

April is also a time of new beginnings. With spring coming in, there is this new sense of energy and importance. I always see myself becoming more productive and more motivated during this time of the year, so hopefully, some of that energy can inspire some of you to do things that you wish you had been doing.

Spring is also a time for self-care. Recently, my friend vowed that she would help me get in shape, as well as help me to feel more comfortable in my own skin. If you are constant readers of mine, first, that’s super cool so thanks, second, you would know that I am taking this month to really focus on my mental illness and to really find ways to help and heal myself both mentally and physically.

Overall, my advice for this month is to take care. It’s always important to take care of yourself and to really be honest with yourself about your own health. Take some time to sit and relax as well as be productive and do the things you’ve been wanting to accomplish.

Stay safe, Stay healthy,

Lia